Personal

What’s All The Anger About?

"Our culture is full of angry people," said one pastor. "We have angry spouses, drive-by shootings, police assassinations and gang vendettas. But the anger isn't just out there, there is also anger and frustration in our own lives." Research indicates that...

Acquiring Humility

“He has showed you, O man, what is good. And what does the Lord require of you? To act justly and to love mercy and to walk humbly with your God.” —Micah 6:8 You probably heard the story of the parishioner who received recognition for being the humblest man in the...

It’s None of Your Business

This isn’t good. . .the thought came to me as I responded to a pastor’s 30 year-old daughter who was secretly avoiding telling her parents that she and her separated husband were still having relation with each other ‘on the side’. The marriage was only a few years...

A Better New Year Resolution

Most people make new-year resolutions in an attempt to overcome weakness or solve a personal problem. I believe there is another and possibly better resolution to make. Focus on your strengths. Let me pose a question. What is it that you do that makes you so good at...

Just Say “OK”

I was angry. My wife Marilyn and I had irreconcilable differences. No, ending our marriage wasn't an option, but we needed help because every marriage has irreconcilable differences. So we agreed to see our friend and counselor Al Ells. He listened intently as each of...

Living Under A Gray Sky

“I never feel good anymore. It seems like there is always a crisis or problem I have to resolve. Someone is always unhappy,” explained John, the leader of a large church network. Was he having a bad day, or is he depressed? “I’ve never considered the possibility of...

From Diet to Disorder

She looked like an all-American high school student,. Claudia, a minister's daughter, was a cheerleader, on the honor roll and active in her youth group at church. Always pleasant and willing to do anything for anyone, it seemed like her life was almost too perfect....

Anger Management

“My dear brothers, take note of this: Everyone should be quick to listen, slow to speak and slow to become angry.”—James 1:19 “Our culture is full of angry people,” said one pastor. “We have angry spouses, drive-by shootings and gang vendettas. But the anger isn’t...

Who is the Man in Your Life?

A recent elk-hunting trip in northern New Mexico unexpectedly became a week of counseling and prayer. Our hunting guide turned out to be a minister. He and his wife had fasted and prayed for 21 days, asking the Lord to provide them with counsel and direction for their...